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Would you ever cheat on your significant other?
Tue Mar 8, 2011 11:51 AM EST
Kelly Wallace, chief correspondent for iVillage.com, says women sometimes cheat when they feel lonely, when they want to leave a relatonship, or when they've gone through a life-threatening experience. Are there circumstances under which you'd consider infidelity?
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9.3%
Yes.
578 votes

82.2%
No.
5,101 votes

8.4%
Maybe.
524 votes

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No.
I was cheated on and it is devistating! The hurt is devistating. The person cheating is selfish. Once a person cheats trust is out!

#1
- sdriscoll
- 1:53 pm EST on Tue Mar 8, 2011
Maybe.
Only if my spouse cheated.
#2
- choirboy
- 1:43 pm EST on Wed Mar 9, 2011
No.
Have never in my life cheated on a partner. Ever. My attitude has always been that if it's broke, I'm gone before that happens.
#3
- gypsyT
- 2:42 pm EDT on Mon Mar 14, 2011
No.
Never, why be together ? If you cheat then you might as well leave, the same goes for the significant other. Trust has been broken.
#4
- Hannah-2721721
- 11:10 am EDT on Mon Mar 21, 2011
No.
no,it's one of the top 10 on the hit parade.
don't comit adulttre.
#5
- gene-349280
- 1:29 pm EDT on Mon Mar 21, 2011
No.
If you are in a relationship, you should never cheat under any circumstance. It is so much easier to just break up before hand. Why cheat
#6
- J's
- 2:13 pm EDT on Mon Mar 21, 2011
No.
the whole 3 minutes would hardly be worth a lifetime of regret
#7
- Anana-3206295
- 3:08 pm EDT on Mon Mar 21, 2011
No.
She is mine and I am hers. To cheat would break the love that brought us together. I have been married more than 38 years. She is the only
#8
- John J. Wilson-2297031
- 3:16 pm EDT on Mon Mar 21, 2011
Yes.
Sure if the woman cheats, then it gives a green light for the husband to do the same. If she does not like it , tough.
#9
- John-383321
- 3:26 pm EDT on Mon Mar 21, 2011
Yes.
I would cheat on my S.O. because of his infidelity, emotional neglect and/or emotional or physical abuse.
#10
- Tigerlilly-3207710
- 6:01 pm EDT on Mon Mar 21, 2011
No.
Absolutely not and anyone who would is disgusting.
1 vote
#11
- IHeartCupcakes
- 10:21 am EDT on Tue Mar 22, 2011
No.
No, I love her she is my life mate,knew it and was married 8-months later.5 1/2 years and we are still in honeymoon mode,will be forever
1 vote
#12
- truthbe1st
- 10:46 am EDT on Tue Mar 22, 2011
Yes.
Monogamy is over-rated. Cheating is a function of convenience and quality of opportunities. With those 2 in place, everyone will cheat.
#13
- 2liberal
- 11:12 am EDT on Tue Mar 22, 2011
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Is it ever OK to date a married man?
Mon Jul 13, 2009 5:03 PM EDT
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69%
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
3,974 votes

10.1%
Yes. You can't always fight love!
580 votes

21%
It depends on the state of the marriage.
1,209 votes

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No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
It is NEVER "OK" if the other person is in a relationship! Boyfriend/Girlfriend, Married, Living together etc.
#14
- winky-1050641
- 5:57 pm EDT on Mon Jul 13, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
This is one of our many problems as a society. Men who will not uphold the moral commitments we have made. And others being ok with it!
#15
- committed in iowa
- 5:58 pm EDT on Mon Jul 13, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
I'll NEVER understand why some men bother to marry, for many men become BORED with being w/one woman!
#16
- Earthie
- 7:22 pm EDT on Mon Jul 13, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
If he can cheat on his wife then what makes you think when he gets with you that he won't cheat on you. There are single good guys out ther
1 vote
#17
- Married2aMarine
- 7:25 pm EDT on Mon Jul 13, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
Having been cheated on by the only 2 serious partners I've ever had, I'd say it's ALWAYS wrong. It's dishonest and that will never be right
#18
- Becca's Mom
- 10:33 pm EDT on Mon Jul 13, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
If the divorce is not finalized, he is not a free man. It's just simple, he is still tied to another woman and it's hands off.
#19
- ynot4966
- 9:26 am EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
For me the answer is no. Marriage is a one on one commitment. Don't enter into the marriage if you can't honor it.
1 vote
#20
- rdawn
- 9:49 am EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
It is completely and morally wrong to date a married man, if he is not happy he should get a divorce and then date.
1 vote
#21
- rebelchick
- 10:27 am EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
I believe it's wrong even if the marriage is unstable. The only time I can see it not cheating is if it's a verified open marriage.
1 vote
#22
- MKC-TN
- 10:33 am EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
Of course not, it's wrong and immoral; most of the time they're lying when they claim they will leave their wife for you, ask for the proof
#23
- Hot-in-Miami
- 11:07 am EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
people blame Bill Clinton, but Lewinsky knew without a doubt that he was married and that does not make her a victim. she knew it was WRON
1 vote
#24
- AmandaMarie
- 11:36 am EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
No to N.O.!!!! Any woman dating a married man is delusional. Any married man is just cheating on EVERYONE including himself!
#25
- Annoyed Citizen
- 12:23 pm EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
Your selfishness is disgusting to me. A married man is not an option and until little girls like you stop engaging them, cheating won't sto
#26
- jlditton
- 12:32 pm EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
Absolutely NEVER is it ok. You know he's married? He's off limits, regardless of whether or not he's willing.
#27
- kp-857053
- 12:34 pm EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
I find it insulting to be asked out by a married man. I am not trash and shouldn't be treated that way.
#28
- Rita Marie
- 2:54 pm EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
If they are still living at home, no. If they have moved out and are in the process of divorce, maybe as long as the wife is aware.
#29
- seperated
- 3:46 pm EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
There's no way to rationalize it. It's not OK to date a married man. People will be hurt.
#30
- Utah Soccer Mom
- 6:09 pm EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
This girl is making excuses for her behavior, ESPECIALLY being in 'her' bed! If she was HIS soul-mate, he'd leave his wife to be with her.
#31
- Madison -1221431
- 3:06 pm EDT on Sun Jul 19, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
If you are using him for sex like he is using you, then hump away. But only a fool "dates" a married man. He will not leave his wife.
1 vote
#32
- Heather at Work
- 4:23 pm EDT on Sun Jul 19, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
Go on and do it if you want to feel like a robber. You have to sit silently on the side when he speaks to his wife on the phone!
#33
- princess32
- 4:30 am EDT on Mon Jul 20, 2009
It depends on the state of the marriage.
I did not know I would have ever dated a married man, but it's sad to say am 33 and have been dating one for the past 8 years.
1 vote
#34
- heatherwillliams
- 7:18 am EDT on Mon Jul 20, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
A leopard will never change his spots& if he is dishonest with her how can you ever think about trusting him? A man will say it's over..NOT
#35
- precociousone2003
- 8:08 am EDT on Mon Jul 20, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
Isn't committment one of the things that separates us from the animals?
#36
- Michael4467
- 9:23 am EDT on Mon Jul 20, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
I am the wife trying to survive the revelation of an affair my husband had with a girl 30 years younger. The price is painful for everyone
#37
- humiliated-1222070
- 10:11 am EDT on Mon Jul 20, 2009
No. It's wrong under any circumstances.
Often times little is romantic about daily issues. Deal with those before you distract yourself with an affair.
#38
- jeninalaska
- 10:35 am EDT on Mon Jul 20, 2009

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Jon Gosselin with new woman: Too soon?
Mon Jul 13, 2009 1:49 PM EDT
Jon Gosselin (of "Jon & Kate Plus 8" fame) was recently seen in Paris holding hands with a new woman - apparently the daughter of the doctor who performed a tummy tuck on Jon's wife, Kate Gosselin. Is it too soon for him to be so public about his new romance? Should he be more discreet for his family's sake? Share your thoughts here.
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76.5%
Yes. The ink on the divorce papers is barely dry!
1,066 votes

14.2%
No. Jon and Kate are clearly over each other.
198 votes

9.3%
I just don't know what to think.
129 votes

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Yes. The ink on the divorce papers is barely dry!
Even though there have divorce papers filed, that doesn't mean that is will proceed. Both parties need to think about the kids first.
1 vote
#39
- momvikki3
- 2:25 pm EDT on Mon Jul 13, 2009
Yes. The ink on the divorce papers is barely dry!
He clearly does not want to make things work with his wife which is fine, but he does not have to rub another woman into Kate's face so soo
#40
- lou-1038422
- 2:31 pm EDT on Mon Jul 13, 2009
Yes. The ink on the divorce papers is barely dry!
I don't care that he wants to move on but do it the right way and wait til the divorce is final. For the kids sake.
#41
- Destinie
- 2:53 pm EDT on Mon Jul 13, 2009
Yes. The ink on the divorce papers is barely dry!
How can he be so stupid. Take a moment and be with your children. They have to swallow this whole idea first!
#42
- Ms. J-1212969
- 3:42 pm EDT on Mon Jul 13, 2009
Yes. The ink on the divorce papers is barely dry!
He is just a flat out loser. Kate is better off w/out him. Clearly these two were together prior to the divorce.
#43
- emcee-1213933
- 8:09 am EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
Yes. The ink on the divorce papers is barely dry!
I have no interest in watching a self-absorbed idiot having a mid-life crisis.
#44
- Shell-88
- 9:13 am EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
Yes. The ink on the divorce papers is barely dry!
She is just fame seeking, he is clearly going through a mid-life crisis. He made 8 kids, he should raise them, not a 22 year old girlfrien
#45
- ynot4966
- 9:16 am EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
Yes. The ink on the divorce papers is barely dry!
This just shows what little class the two cheaters have. Talk about selfish! John and his new girlfriend should be ashamed. Kids 1st my but
#46
- kids1st
- 10:32 am EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
Yes. The ink on the divorce papers is barely dry!
He should be ashamed. Jon is a person that does not respect his family. Jon is interested in his goals only!
#47
- Jo-1174340
- 11:09 am EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
Yes. The ink on the divorce papers is barely dry!
Duh, is this even a serious question? He has 8 kids and is just now seperated..what's the plan to start a family with the whore?
#48
- kimrc11
- 4:46 pm EDT on Tue Jul 14, 2009
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Share your 'near-cheating' confessions here!
Mon Jun 29, 2009 5:46 PM EDT
There's a difference between a full-on affair and flirting, right? Have you ever sent a sexy text or photo to someone other than your partner? Or spent a little too much intimate time with a co-worker? Share your stories of borderline behavior here.
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We chat almost every night online We know that the stuff we have shared almost always crosses into romantic dialogue.But we have never met.
#49
- Grace-1190269
- 10:03 pm EDT on Mon Jun 29, 2009
Its bad karma! Trust me I've been there!
#50
- Karen in the UK
- 11:49 am EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
My boyfriend & I have a mutal friend that comes over almost every weekend. When we get drunk, him & I have gotten a little too close.
#51
- Marie-034
- 4:57 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
I chatted with a girl from the UK because my wife had started just hearing my words and not listening to what I said. Was I cheating?
5 votes
#52
- DIRK-335934
- 4:58 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
Ask yourself if he/she were sitting there, would you still be engaging in the same behavior while he/she watched?
1 vote
#53
- mihwa1
- 4:59 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
I text with an ex-lover of mine. He continues to flirt and suggest and remind me of things - it turns me on - but my hubby doesn't know.
3 votes
#54
- sexstarved
- 5:14 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
If a relationship is more than work related or basic socializing then yes it is. Once intimate feelings or touching begins the cheating has
1 vote
#55
- Phill-1147083
- 5:22 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
I TOTALLY CHEATED! On my EX husband with my new boyfriend. He was married and so was I, we were both in @!$%#ty relationships
2 votes
#56
- kkco
- 5:41 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
My boyfriend keeps sending a woman who lives across the country emails saying that he wants her. What do I do?
3 votes
#57
- putty-hi5
- 5:49 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
My husband has been speaking to his ex via phone,reminiscing of old times because she is being abused and he is trying to help her?Cheating
1 vote
#58
- Viola-1191965
- 5:57 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
Dated for 2 months, never used bf/gf status. He's out of country for the summer and I kissed another guy.
2 votes
#59
- blondie2
- 6:16 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
I have a male friend and one night we were kissing and fondling. We still talk and see each but have done nothing since. Am I cheating?
#60
- Unhappily Married
- 7:14 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
Been texting an ex(totally in love with still) talking about the past and the mindblowing sex we had.feeling strong again. love my hubby to
#61
- inlovewiththewrongman
- 7:37 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
I found pics in my bfriends bbry of a lady's pedicured feet, he has a toe fetish. We've been tgther 8yrs, I mved cntry 2yrs now 4him. Shady
#62
- Concerned-1192172
- 8:08 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
Def, cheating anything you keep from your loved one, can and is! Rule of thumb if u cant say it with them in the room it's wrong!
1 vote
#63
- Jan77
- 8:20 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
my husband slept with the other woman, and he told me about that . later i found a boyfriend, i didn't tell my boyfriend about that.
#64
- lois-1192260
- 9:29 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
a co-worker & I are really close, and recently we told eachother sex dreams we had. since then we have had a few close calls.
#65
- closecall-1192293
- 9:48 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
My girlfriend works with a guys that she has kissed a fews times and hung out with him. Now they want to hang out? Is this ok?
2 votes
#66
- formanuel
- 10:04 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
My girlfriend only has friends she has hooked up with and now she wants to hang out with them and drink. Is it ok for her to spend the nit
#67
- formanuel
- 10:06 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
should I be upset ,my husband gives an ex-girlfriend (who he thought was pysho) a hug and allows her to play w/ his hair ,hand on his chest
1 vote
#68
- rabecca
- 10:19 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
all these things im seeing shows that women are worthless, they like to say men are pigs big women are the ones that lie and cheat the most
1 vote
#69
- enyar
- 10:25 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
when me and my gf where just "sex buddies" i had sex with her sister. she and her friends considerd it cheating. is it? i dont think so
1 vote
#70
- ramirez_660
- 11:11 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
M maried hapnd to be a fren with a gal havng boyfren.shared beers, bed(not sex, private mails, freqnt talks ask wife not to disturb
#71
- RajMar
- 11:28 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
I'm single but a guy from high school has been txting me A LOT, wants me to visit him at work (he's a lifeguard). He's married though!!
#72
- lovelychi22
- 11:39 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009
My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. He's been caught sexting a few different times. I don't feel that I can trust him no
#73
- lostnemore
- 11:41 pm EDT on Tue Jun 30, 2009

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