It is best to forgive but never forget. Abusers are highly manipulative & will seize every opportunity for control. They don't change.

Abusers don't stop abusing EVER. She should leave FOR her children. She's putting them in danger every hour that she stays there.

The abusers don't think they are doing anything wrong. They physically and mentally abuse, make apologies, and then do it over and over.

It's all about self control. I have been so angry I wanted to kill someone but I have not actually commited homicide.

Forgive if it makes you feel better. BUT. never forget. and never assume forgiving means staying.

If a person abuses their spouse once, they'll do it again. It's a no-brainer.

Never once heard of a situation where abuse only happens one time.

Some abuse is situational some is habitual, the distinction is important. Forgiveness is the antithesis to rage.

it has been happening to me for years , yet I stay I have no idea why.I know he is wrong ! it wont stop ever wish I knew why I stay.

Forgiven-Yes, but it does not mean you have to forgive and go back with him. The forgiven part is for us to let go and continue a new life!

if there is physical abuse, their is surely emotional abuse. And emotional abuse leads to physical. From experience it is not worth it!

The only way to forgive abuse is from an enormous distance. NEVER go back to an abuser.

She needs to put a lot of distance, like 500 mi. Dmg to child is worse, the child can't help mom, will hate and remember horrors forever.

She needs to put a lot of distance, like 500 mi. Dmg to child is worse, the child can't help mom, will hate and remember horrors forever.

heck no! once an abuser, always an abuser!

Having been "victim" of alcoholic, corporate lawyer & hit twice, 20 years apart, I say living, knowing it could
happen again was hell. G

Women are important and should not be battered by spuoses. No one should be battered by their partner - ever

When you are the object of abuse and say it nothing or forgive, you say it is okay to have no value as a person. Stand for something or...

Depends on severity of abuse, circumstances (alcohol, etc). I don't support abuse, but is it fare to group all cases of abuse together?

once is a mistake...twice leave the animal!

No, No! What circumstances could change anyone's mind?????

Yes, it can be forgiven... however... once forgiven, THERE IS NO OBLIGATION TO STAY WITH THE ABUSER. Remember that.

people can change, but the burden of proof is always on the abuser; the boon is entirely up to the abusee.

In the country we handle things. If a man hits a woman her Dad, uncles or brothers step in & show him how it feels-that puts an end to it!