Sounds good to me.

I disagree with the opinion stated in the article. In any relationship in life, balance is key. First, men and women both need to know themselves: what can you offer to a relationship and what do you need out of one? Then it's a matter of waiting for the person who matches your needs and your abilities. I do agree that men seem to desire an assertive woman who can hold her own. Listen to the lyrics in "Fancy" by Drake for instance to see what I mean.

Why is 'strength' synonymous with 'bitch'? Is it so difficult to be kind yet principled?

I have four children and have been with the same guy for five years. He's gotten really close to them and loves the whole daddy thing. He's changed so much. When we met he was "The Great Dane." According to his mother he's done a 180 since we've gotten together and traded the bar for parent teacher conferences. I'm not, nore have I ever tried to change him but we've been together for five years!! I figured he'd pop the question by now. How slow are men at coming to that point anyway. I don't want to go but I'm the one getting all the pressure from his family, teachers ( his mom being a retired teacher in a very small town), our pastor, etc. I've been open for it for about a year and haven't told anyone. What can I do to influence him without having to say it? We've lived together for four of those five.

OH I liked reading this....this is SO true. My male friends tell me the same thing. I am fortunate enough to have great male friends and I can pick thier brains! Being a strong and secure woman, but feminine and soft....are very important attributes to men.

I am agasped at this article...... Why men marry bitches, is becuase they see that there is a glint of hope that these women will change and not be bitches.... the reality is that they don't change and become ultimate bitches..... the man then loses everything, his house, his children, every personal asset he owned and his rights as a human being are reduced to being accused of every possible mistreatment of the bitch and labeled abusive and threatening. The bitches however evolve to more a politically correct term called a "cougar" with a stomache only half full, till they find another unsuspecting man to relieve him of everything he owns.......

I am an 45 y/o assertive confident woman. But I'll never turn into a spoiled diva bitch in order to be considered "worthy" of marriage.

You see-- I was raised to be kind, honorable and compassionate and I would rather hold on to those good virtues than sacrifice them for the sake of getting married.

So I guess I'll be single for the rest of my life. Interestingly, I am at peace with that.

Besides, i already have the most important things in life--My children, My family, Friends, Spirituality, Faith, Love, Career.

If men chose to chase after spoiled, arrogant, bitch divas then that is their prerogative.

Doesn't bother me one bit since i know those same men will end up divorced or being cheated on by his coveted "bitch wife" because, in the end, that is what bitches do. They control, cheat on and then divorce their men making sure they take them to the cleaners in the process.

Hmmm, I read this book once 'cause my aunt persuaded me to read it, and despite having some good points (dignity, self confidence), is just a bunch of nonsense to manipulate men.

I believe this. I read articles by men trying to make you into the perfect pre stepford wife...blech. Ive been in relationships where I catered to the man..and catered..and got worn out..and catered some more...seems they cant handle the pedestal and forget that I needed one too. Now I am getting vocal and worrying about numero uno..me..now I cant keep men off my back to the point it is annoying having that many interested. I have needs and wants too. Oh I can bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan and never let him forget he's a man..BUT I AM A WOMAN and I need it too...

i ont think the fact that you refuse to bend over backwards for your man makes you a bitch just self assured even the wording in this book is wrong women can never get a break

This is only for guys that are the "good guys" This is a very old concept and it's really not that important anymore. Guys do not generally want to get married period. Guys only want one thing and that's it. The guys out there now have so many opportunities for free sex they could care less if you are confident or not. It's really ridiculous because the more confident you are, the more you scare them away. Trust me, I've been single for a long time and dated a lot of guys. The key to getting married is finding the right one and treating him with respect. Then he will see how great you are and want to marry you. That's it, period.

First, off the title of the book I believe is to catch readers and buyers. However, the message in the book isn't to just merely be a spoiled bitch as there are so many spoiled man-children out there. It just means if a man gets mouthy or smart and tries to pull manipulative tactics, women have to get smart back and stand their ground. Men like bantering (not to the point of fighting) and it is always a game and not the endless chase necessarily, but women have to be stronger these days and enjoy playing a small bit of mind games with their mates but it doesn't mean to be a total bitch. Its just part of human nature and social conditioning over the years. And its natural in men to be somewhat competitive anyway. And let's admit, no one likes a total push over no matter if it is a woman or a man, the look of desperation is never attractive on either side.

I also think all relationships need work once having found the one you want to be with, there is no such thing as the "right" one, its just that there are those who are more compatible than others. Also, there are always going to be issues in the beginning of relationships its part of getting used to and comfortable with each other. There isn't a person who doesn't have their own weird quirks or compulsive habits as I like to call them (which always cause arguments). This is not a pessimistic view just a realistic one because I don't think there is such things as "Prince Charmings" and "Knights in Shining Armors" anymore. Today, there is less nobility and chivalry because of the changes in our value system. The ones that still follow the old system, they are more of the rare breed and I have yet to meet one. Though I am currently content and happy with my man-child, its just more work lol.

Imagine a Russian living in Russia, and trying to write a book about How to live like an American. Sounds trite? Exactly. That is exactly what these women authors are doing when they try to claim they know how men think.

Most women don't have a clue about what is going on in a man's mind. Worse still, they won't spend time with a man to try and find out. Rather, they will spend countless hours with their girlfriends, sharing baseless assumptions with each other, and reinforcing same to their own detriment. Hint: if you really want to know why men marry some women and not others, talk to men.

"Want a man to propose? Be a bitch"

Oh REALLY!!!!!

Do that, by being a BITCH for me to propose to you, then guess what, lights out, game over, YOU are GONE out of my life then, and NEVER to be seen again.

THAT, I DO NOT and WILL NOT tolerate from ANY woman, and I do NOT care, who SHE thinks SHE IS, SHE is GONESVILLE, PERIOD.

This lady is wrong on all levels. It's very sad that she is basically telling women to be who they are not just to get a man. Honestly( and this is my opinion) Ladies read your bible, dress appropriately, do stand up for what you believe in, cook, clean, and be pleasant to be around.

DOn't listen to this bull$hit. My ex tried that and guess what? Wrong timing and I kicked her lying not sleeping with me for 3 weeks ass out after finding multiple guys numbers on her phone. I never would let go the horrible thing she said and she was too much of a coward to ell me the truth after a month of asking her. The last thing you tell someone going through hard times at work is, "i don't think our marriage will last" a month before he was going to propose and drop the info he is leaving his job for less money but we will be ok. You want to have an argument, try after sex and you will WIN. Take it from someone who knows. Why she stalked me after is beyond me but if she wanted to talk, she had a chance. If she wanted to call later, don't block your number because all that means is you are hiding something. I KNOW. YOU MADE A CHOICE AND NOW YOU'LL LOVE THE NEXT FUN ON YOUR LIST WITH YOUR FEDERAL CRIME FOR LYING TO FAFSA FOR SCHOOL AID. Ignoring your man, turning your back on him, and playing with him is WRONG. I could keeps secrets but it's obvious you had to tell mine to your dad, your friends, and so on. How does it feel HUH? YOu hate me? That's fine because it's mutual for running out on a man when he needed you the most. I hope you like hell, unless you finally have the stomach to talk.

You know what I hate this article...because i am naturally sweet ill give you everything you want (well not everything theres one little something i have not and refuse to give up just yet) but if i was with a guy i will do whatever it takes to keep him in my life, but by what it says in the article men prefer mean girls...or girls with a stronger personality...how the hell am i suposed to compete with that?? i dont know how to be assertive...i think assertive for me would be really selfish and mean in my perspective..i have tried to be assertive before but i suck at it...i just act like one really mean person and the thing is i dont like that feeling it doesnt make me feel confident it just makes me feel guilty like i have done something wrong.....but from this article it shows that men prefer bitches..and i have seen it alot...alot of guys at school pick the girls with stronger personalitys and it hurts to see that because i dont know how to be that...is there like a personality class or something....because i always thought that a key to a guys a heart is to show him that you truely care for him and that you will do anything it takes to keep him in your life....but that makes me look really needy and desperate....i dont know what to do can anybody give me any advice....FML

I get all this that is said in the article. I myself have a hard time being a bitch. But from what I've witnessed in day to day living and also within my own family, it's not just the bitch factor men are attracted to: they love being treated like crap from a woman. The meaner she is, the more she expects, the more she uses sex as a weapon, the more he is on all fours dragging himself over to the woman. It's sad. I get a kick when men say they don't understand women who stay with men who treat them badly. Well dear boys, you all are just as bad.

I have this book and it is not as bad as it sounds as far as how a BITCH is defined. I somewhat agree, but at some point the woman's needs for love, affection, safety, and respect must come into play. Why would a man want a woman who does not need him and has nothing to offer or appears indifferent? I agree that you don't have to break your neck to try to please him, small acts of kindness are enough. I am serving left over pot roast that I made yesterday to my bf tonight and he is pleased with that.

No wonder marriage is declining and so many of these "bitches" or career women have trouble finding a spouse or their boy friend to marrying them. There's a fine line between being self-respect and hubris aka being a bitch. It's funny that men that tolerate disrespect from these types lack self-respect themselves. The author should keep it up, she won't be surprised when water seeks its own level and she is with a jerk or insecure loser.

Most healthy couples have mutual respect and don't need to act like a bitch or jerk.

I highly doubt that signing a contract and getting a ring is going to truly change the relationship, unless of course you are marring for the money...

The world is running on the hate system, the opposite of God and love. The world is running backwards. Instead of the boy choosing the girl and her loving him back, the girl chooses the boy she hates and wants to control and he hates her back. The man acts tough and confident which is an act and the woman who is better at deceit and one step ahead uses that to control him. She acts hard to get so he thinks he's "conquering" her but he's been tricked. Women have more human nature than men and are more proud so win the war and control the man when they get married. Dating is a war and "love" is hate, and a war to beat the other person and keep their independence. It's why men have to be the ones to try and meet women. I've shown thousands of girls I like them a LOT and thousands have given me "looks", stood nearby, things like that to try to get me to meet them. But how many took the risk and actually tried to meet me? Not one, ever. Women will never come to you, that you love them isn't as important to them as their self love and keeping their pride. If you are a boy who actually likes girls or a girl who actually likes boys you will probably be alone.

Getting him to propose takes a bit more than hints and suggestions or being a bitch - some women just dont want to be bitchy!!! - there are a lot of guys who are commitment phobic and getting those ones to propose is nigh on impossible. there is a real system for doing this properly (and ethically) if you are interested. I wrote a review about it on my relationship website - take a look.

Getting him to propose takes a bit more than hints and suggestions and being a bitch isnt every womans forte... there are a lot of guys who are commitment phobic and getting those ones to propose is nigh on impossible. there is a real system for doing this properly (and ethically) if you are interested. I wrote a review about it on my relationship website - take a look. Getting him to propose takes a bit more than hints and suggestions - there are a lot of guys who are commitment phobic and getting those ones to propose is nigh on impossible. there is a real system for doing this properly (and ethically) if you are interested. I wrote a review about it on my relationship website - take a look.