$159 per guest for a bachelorette? What planet is this writer on??? The average person can't afford that much for a single evening out!

Get everyone together, determine what each person wants to contribute, then plan a party around the available funds. Don't zing guests with expenses they aren't prepared to pay, or can't afford, at the end of the evening. This also avoids having dear friends miss your bachelorette because they just couldn't afford it.

Lastly....brides shouldn't be planning their own bachelorette at all. It's in their honor, and they should wait until someone offers to host. if asked, say what you'd like....but don't dictate what a hostess throws for you.

I have been dragged to some painfully boring bachelorette parties. I don't want to play games, I'm not a child. I don't want "get to know you" drivel, if I'm a bridesmaid I already know the other bridesmaids.

Who comes up with all this pigeonholing of what women want? For my bachelorette party, my girlfriends and I went out to clubs, got drunk, and went to see male strippers. Yes, it was the night before the wedding and I was viciously hung over the day of, but my girlfriends and I had the best time and many years later we still laugh about it.

My girlfriends who married before me said they wished someone had thrown a party like that for them.

To each their own, but you should know the bride well enough to not just fall into the cookie cutter, boring bachelorette party trap.