Couples to celebrate eighth annual Black Marriage Day
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from:msnbc.comEvent pushes for black couples to wed
Seeded on Fri Mar 26, 2010 10:09 AM EDT (msnbc.com)
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How about white marriage day ?
Mixed marriage day ?
Sounds too PC incorrect ?
OK if that's what you want. Make it happen.
The best one has got to be "Marry your baby daddy day"....LOL.....Who comes up with this crap?......Not to mention the mangled english language,"your baby daddy".....As the world turns I suppose.
For some reason I find it sad that there actually has to be a "....Marry Your Baby Daddy" Day. Why are we funning a sad trend in society? One just has to watch an episode of Maury Povitch to see what an epidemic having or being a "baby daddy" has become. It used to be the day when it was a shame to bear a child out of wedlock, now it has almost become a status symbol in some elements of society. I blame this breakdown of the family on several elements
1) Absence of Religion (any belief, not just Christian) in the home.
2) Desire for materialism and the subsequent resulting in two-family income households where a children are left to their own devices.
3) The ease and access of inappropriate media and early exposure of our children. Take a look at the young girl in Florida who was recently beaten within an inch of her life over a text message. In October 2009 in the same school, a boy was doused with gasoline and lit on fire over a dispute over a video game. I do not let my teens delete their text messages without me going through them. I will and DO contact parents of teens who send inappropriate messages. I then block access of those numbers to the cell phones. My kids do not have unlimited access to the internet. They do not have MySpace of Facebook accounts. Guess what? Do you think it's amazing that my kids are obedient, well mannered and excellent students? Parents...control what your kids have access too!!! You cann do it if it is important to you. Don't turn a blind eye....stay informed, be involved. What you might find out just might scare the juice out of you.
4) Educate youth of the consequences of their choices today and the impact on their futures. This is not stressed enough in the home. I see it time and time again.
Both parents regardless of color, creed or religion need to be involved. We shouldn't be having events to encourage people to marry. Marriage is the founbdation of a family...not a child.
I have read up on the studies that show that it is height that is the number one factor in how women determine desirability of inter-racial marriages. Caucasian women go for Black guys, Asian chicks go for Caucasian guys. Anytime you see the opposite, the male is significantly above average height.
What does this have to do with this article? Well if it is so hard for black women to find men interested in marriage, why don't they go for Caucasian or Asian men, even if they are of an undesirable height. Us white guys often find black girls to be desirable but are generally rebuffed. Thank god we still have Asian girls.
AtomicZeppelinMan
I don't care what anybody says, I think your a cool guy... And, that's coming from a blackman...
One day, we'll all be able to live together on this planet and not base our opinions on the color of eachothers skin....
We all bleed red!!!
To quote the movie Bulworth: "We all just need to f^c& till we are same color."
Agreed. Then we can all stop focusing on color.
I'm down for it! If we could have a National Interracial Sex Day where we would all get the day off, with pay, to hook up with persons of different races, I'm all for it.
As for this promotion of Black Marriages, it's a complete waste of time. The Black folks who can stay faithful and true to each other will remain married, those who realize that marriage is only a societal construct, and not at all compatible with our evolutionary instincts to mate with many different partners, will continue to be unfaithful and shun such ideas as sexual monogamy and marriage.
And it's not just us Black folks doing this either.
Marriage has been proven to be a beneficial institution for both the individuals involved and society as a whole. Married people really DO live longer, for instance. Of course you could say that everything is a "social construct" including the law, but that doesn't mean it's a wonderful idea to disregard or destroy it. People sometimes need a little push to do things that are in their own best interest. That's why the tax code gives you incentives for saving for your own retirement, just as an example.
This is a very commendable campaign. Marriage is the number one anti-poverty program. Increasing the black marriage rate and reducing the number of children born to single black mothers would dramatically reduce the black poverty rate. The article has one fact backwards. It says that the black marriage rate is so low because of high black male unemployment and incarceration. In fact the arrow of causation points in the opposite direction. High unemployment and incarceration rates are the effects of singe parenthood. Many of the social pathologies prevalent among black people originate in the absence of the father from children's lives. Having a responsible father in the home helps to prevent the kids' failure in school and their eventual slide into criminality, welfare dependence, out-of-wedlock pregnancies, and the resulting poverty. The obligations of fatherhood transform young men, civilizing them in myriad ways. Promoting black marriage would do more than anything else to left black families out of poverty, reduce criminality, and promote racial equality and harmony in the United States. Black achievement is today held back primarily by the pathological black family, and not, as in the past, by discrimination.
'abdul' has nine children from multiple women and states, "I don't see any reason to marry." Who the hell is paying to support all nine of his illegitimate kids??!! Me and every other taxpayer.....that's who.
Didn't take long at all, folks (see post #1.2)!
@Dwater,
Did it ever occur to you that maybe, just maybe, the taxpayer is not supporting Mr. Abdul's children...?
Nope. Believing some idiot named Abdul with 'nine children from multiple women' is paying child support would defy all statistical probabilities.
the idea of black returning to marriage is wonderful as it was the right wing church that caused this problem by their demand that no children could be on ADC if there was a man-husband living in the house.
Dwater - that wouldn't defy all statistical probabilities, it would defy your negative stereotypes...then you wonder why people still complain about racism.
Also, the only tax dollars that would be used for these kids would be state tax dollars.
Even if the taxpayer is NOT directly supporting his nine children, which is very hard to believe, they are indirectly supporting them because the children of single mothers inevitably use more services. They are less likely to finish high school let alone go to college, more likely to get pregnant or cause a pregnancy as a teenager, and far more likely to end up in prison. In any case, a father is more than an open wallet. Neither is he supposed to be a visiting "uncle" who takes you bowling once in awhile. Children benefit from having both parents living together under the same roof and available to them when THEY need them.
Who the heck needs NINE kids, anyway? Especially when he doesn't actually live with ANY of them? The world's population will reach seven billion by 2012, two years away. Do you really think the world can continue to support each man fathering nine kids? I'll bet he'd have far fewer if he had settled down with the first woman he'd knocked up.
"They also note the lack of positive images of black marriage in the media and several misperceptions about matrimony — that it's for white people..."
This is what's really wrong with this country. Have any black people ever taken a look at hispanic families? They have a much stronger family group than us white people do, yet us white people get blamed for everything nowadays just because we're white. I'm getting really tired of reading how white people are holding black people back so they can do nothing more than sit at home while baby daddy is in jail (cause we couldn't get married, that's for them white folk) and collect tax dollars which is ok because we're black. but when a white person does it, that's just trashy.
Mike - I didn't read that blacks were blaming whites because of the lack of black couples in the media or because too many blacks think marriage "is for white people". As far a black couples in the media, well, lets see....we've got the President and the First Lady...and they're a real couple. As far as blacks saying something "is for white people", as an African-American, I heard that line hundreds of times growing up. It's ignorant and not even worth commenting on.
I didn't see that blacks were blaming whites either. Mike may be reading more into the article that meets the eye.
I fail to see how this program will suceed in the hood, when all of the examples in the article are professional people. How will it play to the thug and his pregnant girlfriend(s) ?
The Bill Cosby show, and The Fresh Prince of Bel Air showed strong marriages between blacks. My shoulders sag under the weight of the blame for keeping the blacks down. I need a nap.
Where in this article did you see any reference to whites keeping blacks down?
To the family Regardless of racial identity.
The family is the strength of any civilized society. That may have been a taken for granted, but now that families have taken on a non-traditional definition we have seen the result-Broken Homes, Crimes, Dysfunctions abound.
To the Family!!
You're absolutely right, and I think organizations like this are a very positive trend.
Being married makes it harder to collect social benefits for them.
Ever hear of the EITC or the Child Tax Credit? Those are programs that reward work and that married couples still qualify for.
Thes are admirable programs. History has shown that the majority society does not want the strong black family or a strong black man. Rules were placed to make sure the black marriage institution failed. You set it in motion and then continuously condemn the people for the results that you set in motion. Black marriage and black families are needed. No we don't look at the white marriage as a model because we see all the negatives there that are covered by money and denial... I am the product of black marriage and family. I have been married almost 12 years and plan to stay that way. Stand strong black family. Our kids need it.