splitting up may be bad for the child but keeping things as they are will hurt you and possibly your husband. talk to him about it. one option is that you stay together but have a female @!$%# buddy, it isnt cheating if your husband knows about it and is okay with it, in reality alot of men are perverted and would love their wife to be having sex with other women. Me and my girlfriend are bisexual and we know that the other is going to have sexual needs we cant fufill so we agreed upon having sex buddies, she can have a female one and I can have a male one. It works out great. This may work well for us but it may not be for everyone, it is just a suggestion.

If I ever needed to question like that, it basically shows that I'm not wholly happy but missing some big thing in my life. And I'll keep feeling something's missing forever if I don't decide to go for something that I know I'm missing. Now it might be a happy and comfortable life for you, but not happy enough to stop you from feeling this. You never know that you'll feel 'even happier and even more comfortable' and feels nothing is missing anymore if you decide to be with a woman that you have been longing for so long. You'll be fulfilled in every aspect of life, and it is surely better, and worth it.

I am in the same situation I am also a lesbian who is married to a man, and it’s not a day that goes by that I wish I wasn't in this relationship, I wish everyday that my husband was a woman instead of a man. And I also have two children which makes it even more difficult because if I walk away I feel it will do more damage to them then good and I don't want to hurt my children emotionally. This is a very hard situation to be in because you can't really find a partner when you are married no woman wants to be involved with you as long as you are married. So this in itself causes more unhappiness almost unbearable to deal with at times because you are not being satisfied sexually or emotionally. And when I see other women who are in relationships with their female partners, I feel so jealous because I wish it was me that was out traveling, dinning out, having movie nights, cuddling and experiencing a fulfilling and satisfying sex life with a female partner of my own. I cry a lot because I am so unhappy and unsatisfied with my love life and because I can't find a female partner who is willing to help me find my joy. And I don't have the financial resources to leave I don't even have a job and when I do have a job it's usually not paying enough for me to even think about leaving I won't even have enough money to pay my rent let alone take care of my two children. Now I am at the bitter stage I find myself getting angry as well as jealousy when a woman a lesbian or a couple verbally expresses sexual satisfaction expresses any happiness or satisfaction all just being together. I hate my life and I am only torn between leaving and staying because I love my children and I don't want to see them struggle in life.