If a person pays me a compliment that I think is deserved and is sincere, I will say, "Thank you, you are so kind", or "You are so nice to notice, thank you." That way, I am accepting the compliment and giving credit to the other person for their thoughtfulness in paying it.

I've found a way to accept a compliment without verifying it's validity entirely. I simply say, "I'm glad you like it." That, to me, says I validate your opinion, but reserve the right to disagree if I wish!!

Hint: These two women were probably pretty used to being hit on. And I can tell you that as a woman it really sucks when you are trapped behind a counter and some man starts hitting on you because you have to be nice to the customer and a lot of men get the idea that you like them hitting on you and it becomes very uncomfortable very quickly. Having an unwanted admirer at the gym can ruin a girl's "me time" pretty quickly. Plus, a woman who's weight lifting is impressive is probably more likely than your average woman to have a mistrust of men, not always, but I do think more often. Take these for what they were, clear signs that the woman didn't want your attention, and maybe, just maybe, it wasn't because she can't take a compliment but rather because she didn't want yours.

Just more nonsense about "women" is all this is. Let me tell you ladies, none of you knows how to take a compliment. You have already decided that most men are worthless and are just trying to get you in bed, so you are always assuming somebody is "up to something"....Ask any woman what she wants (in the way of a man), and none can actually answer this question. BUT they can tell you what they DONT want.

And I am soooooo sorry that some of you who have been hit on feel uncomfortable...Must be nice to sit and judge the compliments of the interested men, and become indignant about it. It's never easy opening yourself up for total rejection. Try having to be the agressor ALL the time like a man, and persuing the opposite sex. Then just maybe you women will be a little nicer, and understand that most of the time, it's just a compliment, and a small bit of flirtation to see if you have any interest.

My assumption is there will be legislation enacted to add a compliment to sexual harrasment charges.....

It used to be a man's world James Brown....but women don't actually like men anymore. They like "shims".

I am always getting compliments from men telling me i have pretty and sexy eyes and legs. To me i have never found them that way but if they want to tell em that i do then i just say thank you very much. makeup and hose does wonders..or they will say i have nice big breast and that makes me feel weird cause i know that and they rnt so nice when i take the holster off..need a lift job BADDDDDDDD. Neone out there who can help on that part..lol

Well, last time I said "thank you" to another man complimenting my eyes ("wow, you have the most beautiful eyes"), my date got really offended and said that by saying thank you, I was flirting back. He got so jealous he decided to end the date! I was always taught to say thank you when somebody says something kind, and I didn't feel like this man was disrespecting my date nor was he implying he wanted to jump in bed with me so even now, years later, I do not see what I did wrong. So it's not always because women feel all high and mighty and that they are trying to be snobby that they reject or question compliments, as someone else above implied.

I have also had a lot of people complimenting me in a creepy way, and complimenting one thing after another, like my eyes, my smile, and my skin, which is fine, and then they proceed to body parts and it becomes offensive, like"wow, you have such a nice rack". What am I supposed to say to that? Thanks? Sorry but that is awkward and bordering on sexual harassment. I don't mind people pointing out other characteristics like a smile, intelligence, or strength, but there is a point where you need to draw the line, such as when you feel uncomfortable.

I'm sorry, Mr. Alexander. But it doesn't seem like your examples show women who can't take a compliment. It sounds to me like someone is being just a little bit creepy. When I am at the gym, I don't want anyone interrupting my work out with chit-chat.

I assume as well that you don't make a habit of telling men how "impressive" their weight rack is or how "beautiful" their hands are. Stop being creepy.

Ladies - why do you always have to try to read intentions into everything someone says to you? Just say "thank you" and then go back to what you were doing.

And if you're hanging out places where men compliment your "rack", you're hanging out in the wrong places, girl. Get some class and head elsewhere. Jeez.

OK... This is just another article affirming the fact that all women are mentally unstable fruitcakes and nothing and no one is ever safe around them. Women can't take a compliment? Really? Sheesh!!

In the apartment complex I live in my neighbors and I share a common area that adjoins our back patios. This means we often see each other and visit and chat. This summer one of my married female neighbors complimented me on my feet. Her exact words were, "You have very pretty feet". As a man I have never before been complimented on my feet and truthfully it sort of threw me, but I smiled, said, "Really? You think so? Well Thanks." Tada... I took the compliment graciously, thanked her for it, and we went on our merry way.

So why is it women have to instill DRAMA into EVERYTHING? You all are so untrustworthy and have to "read" some kind of insult into anything said to you. So ladies, the next time you receive a compliment, take it like a man (because women apparently CAN'T take it), say "Thank you", and move along.

to the male participants, why try? In this poisoned gender atmosphere we live in at present, most of what you say or do will not be taken as meant, but will be taken as negatively as possible, especially as women get older. Solution? Compliment younger and prettier women, ignore the 40 + crowd who are so embittered and angry that they see EVERYTHING as a negative and something to complain about. Think about it, ladies. There is a reason men choose younger women as they get older. Because they actually can be pleasant and positive. It's SO refreshing.

I gave up complimenting women when I was 15 because they don't appreciate it.

I know he means it, but after I've had a long day of work, cooking, cleaning and am not feeling glamorous (ie, frazzled hair, frumpy clothes, and I'm pregnant to boot), sometimes its hard to believe when my husband tells me I'm beautiful.

Definitely sweet, though. And he's slowly training me to just smile and say thank you as opposed to my usual ugly reaction of snorting and saying "whatever!"

I flirt with and compliment women all day long. Checkout counter (Lowe's this morning), fast food places, work, friends friends, on the street. 9 times out of 10 women are responsive. The one bitch out of ten who isn't rolls off my back. They hate themselves and everyone else. I just move on. And you know what? The rest of the time I feel good and so do they. If it leads to a hook up it's usually three or four meetings down the road, and it's more often them innitiating and not me by then. Someone wrote earlier that woman ARE wary of men. And they should be. Almost all violence against women is by men. But most women can see I'm just being friendly and complimenting them. If I'm interested in more I know I have to build that trust and that's takes time. So my advice to both sides, women enjoy the compliments and guys chill out and don't take it so personally. It's not a war complimenting. It should be fun.

For me, i actually kind of flip out and start crying i'm so stressed. Strange i know but i can't seem to help it. I've gotten better as i get older, but reviews used to really stink because I felt so cornered.

I find it interesting...as a girl who was made fun of for everything under the sun as a kid (first I was too flat chested...and then over night grew a chest that wouldn't stop growing and was fodder for teasing, being too short, then being too tall, being a goofball, spaz, not girly and a tomboy- all of which I still am) I wasn't taught how to take compliments because the only 'guy' giving them to me at that time was my dad- usually trying to make me feel better. I was made fun of by more girls than I was the boys at times, and by the boys more than the girls at times. Based on the trust thing of guys- most of my friends are guys- and they always have been- so I wouldn't chalk it up to man-hating girls not being able to take compliments...just saying...some of us trust women's compliments less....

Here's what i've learned: I don't take compliments as well as I should because of my early experiences- when someone tells me they think I'm beautiful- I feel shocked and I used to just blush (which is a pretty unusual reaction for me as I'm pretty extroverted and outgoing). Now I do say thank you because in truth- I don't care what they are after, I'm only going to give them what I'm going to give them and it's NICE to hear a compliment. After the years of teasing...I'm certainly not going to get offended at a nice compliment (although- yes...the creepy ones I'll do w out).

Ladies, look at yourself and give YOURSELF a compliment! I like the face I see in the morning, it's certainly not perfection- but I don't think I could live that model kind of life! It's a good, average face of a woman who has lived a pretty decent and happy life. Those laugh lines I earned from smiling the smile I spent several years w braces on- the one I get compliments on. My body still runs and bikes and does what I want it to do- I personally GREW two beautiful human beings with this body!!! Even w it's slight imperfections- I like what I see. These are my compliments to myself. 

When someone else compliments me- even if I don't believe the full extent of what they are saying....I let myself be lifted a little because in truth- I'm pretty hard on myself as are most of the female population.

Perhaps this world would be a nicer place if we complimented each other in earnest more often- not just for how we look, but for the attributes that make someone beautiful from the inside out.  Perhaps we'd learn how to trust each other a bit more a little at a time and call it a day on all the crap that currently goes on.

And hey...if that doesn't work...we can ALL stay in and eat a burger, play some GOW and only socialize w avatars online....

It had nothing to do with COMPLIMENTS. She knew you were hitting on her, and wanted you to go away!

If I'm going to compliment a stranger, that kind of response, which is curt and sounds ungrateful, would ensure they'd never get another one from me.  A smile and a "thank you" is all the response one needs. "Reserve the right to disagree"? Of course you do, why wouldn't you, but do you have to prove it?

I was married to one of these soul-sucking women for 4 1/2 years. Nothing was ever just accepted. And then men get the abuse. Ladies, we're simple. When we say you were actually great and deserved the Nobel Prize, smile and accept your greatness.

It's because women are taught (by other women - mothers, sisters, girlfriends) to mess with each other so much they are unable to distinguish a sincere compliment from a criticism.  Women train constantly throughout their lives in how to trash talk each other.  Just watch one of those ridiculous housewives 'reality' shows for five minutes and you'll understand completely.  Ladies...here's some advice on how to be happy with yourselves, confident, and secure in your own mind that you really are terrific...stay away from other women!!

Depends. If the guy seems like he's just trying a cheap score, no. If he's really sincere, then yeah. I remember, we my husband and I met for the first time, he said, "Oh my god, your eyes are beautiful!"

He got the date :)