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Do you wear your wedding band at all times?
Mon Nov 7, 2011 12:49 PM EST
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Do you wear your wedding band at all times?
Results
Total of 5,052 votes

46.1%
Yes, there's never a reason to take it off.
2,327 votes

41.7%
No, I take it off sometimes.
2,105 votes

12.3%
No, I don't wear a ring.
620 votes
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Does your partner put work ahead of your relationship?
Mon Oct 10, 2011 8:44 AM EDT
Related story: How to cope when your partner’s job comes before you

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Does your partner put work ahead of your relationship?
Results
Total of 1,676 votes

45.5%
Yes
762 votes

54.5%
No
914 votes
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How strong is your marriage? Take our survey
Thu Sep 22, 2011 3:54 PM EDT
Live Poll
How many years have you been married?
0-5
6-10
11-20
20+
View Results
160306
0-5
23%
160307
6-10
17%
160308
11-20
24%
160309
20+
36%
VoteTotal Votes: 29800
Live Poll
Sex
Male
Female
View Results
160310
Male
30%
160311
Female
70%
VoteTotal Votes: 28879
Live Poll
Do you have children?
Yes
No
View Results
160312
Yes
76%
160313
No
24%
VoteTotal Votes: 28843
Live Poll
What's your biggest priority?
Your spouse/marriage
Your children
Yourself
Your career
View Results
160593
Your spouse/marriage
51%
160594
Your children
38%
160595
Yourself
7%
160596
Your career
3%
VoteTotal Votes: 28781
Live Poll
How strong is your marriage?
Very strong
Pretty strong
It varies
Weak
View Results
160529
Very strong
46%
160530
Pretty strong
32%
160531
It varies
17%
160532
Weak
5%
VoteTotal Votes: 28736
Live Poll
Have you ever gone to a marriage counselor?
Yes
No
View Results
160314
Yes
20%
160315
No
80%
VoteTotal Votes: 28646
Live Poll
If so, how long did you go to counseling?
Once
Less than six months
Six months or longer
Not applicable
View Results
160518
Once
3%
160519
Less than six months
13%
160520
Six months or longer
5%
160521
Not applicable
79%
VoteTotal Votes: 26839
Live Poll
Did counseling help your marriage?
No, not at all
A little bit
Yes, a great deal
Not applicable
View Results
160522
No, not at all
5%
160523
A little bit
10%
160524
Yes, a great deal
7%
160525
Not applicable
79%
VoteTotal Votes: 26537
Live Poll
Have you considered divorce?
Yes, I seriously considered it
Yes, I've thought about it, but not too seriously
Never
View Results
160526
Yes, I seriously considered it
16%
160527
Yes, I've thought about it, but not too seriously
33%
160528
Never
52%
VoteTotal Votes: 28240
Live Poll
What causes the biggest conflict?
Money
Inequitable distribution of household chores
Kids
Sex
Relatives
None of the above
View Results
160533
Money
26%
160534
Inequitable distribution of household chores
14%
160535
Kids
9%
160536
Sex
14%
160537
Relatives
9%
160538
None of the above
30%
VoteTotal Votes: 28347
Live Poll
How often do you argue
Daily
Weekly
Monthly
Almost never
View Results
160539
Daily
5%
160540
Weekly
25%
160541
Monthly
28%
160542
Almost never
41%
VoteTotal Votes: 28194
Live Poll
How would you characterize your fighting style?
Fair
Unfair
View Results
160543
Fair
77%
160544
Unfair
23%
VoteTotal Votes: 27546
Live Poll
How do your arguments end?
When my spouse agrees I'm right
I usually let my spouse win -- it's just easier
We agree to disagree
They never end
View Results
160545
When my spouse agrees I'm right
6%
160546
I usually let my spouse win -- it's just easier
15%
160547
We agree to disagree
70%
160548
They never end
10%
VoteTotal Votes: 27022
Live Poll
Which statement is most accurate
I never go to bed angry with my spouse
I rarely go to bed angry with my spouse
I sometimes go to bed angry with my spouse
I often go to bed angry with my spouse
View Results
160549
I never go to bed angry with my spouse
14%
160550
I rarely go to bed angry with my spouse
46%
160551
I sometimes go to bed angry with my spouse
33%
160552
I often go to bed angry with my spouse
7%
VoteTotal Votes: 27353
Live Poll
When I think of my spouse's biggest fault, I ...
Love him/her anyway
Like him/her anyway
Feel aggravated to no end
Still hope I can change him/her
Laugh about it
View Results
160553
Love him/her anyway
67%
160554
Like him/her anyway
7%
160555
Feel aggravated to no end
11%
160556
Still hope I can change him/her
5%
160557
Laugh about it
10%
VoteTotal Votes: 26973
Live Poll
What kinds of secrets do you keep from your spouse?
They're related to money/purchases/debt
Relationships with people of the opposite sex
Things I am angry/disappointed/sad about
What I really think about him/her
I don't keep secrets from my spouse
View Results
160558
They're related to money/purchases/debt
15%
160559
Relationships with people of the opposite sex
7%
160560
Things I am angry/disappointed/sad about
29%
160561
What I really think about him/her
7%
160562
I don't keep secrets from my spouse
41%
VoteTotal Votes: 26758
Live Poll
Beyond love, what's most important to you in your marriage?
Respect
Humor
Passion
Communication
Same or similar values
View Results
160563
Respect
34%
160564
Humor
13%
160565
Passion
5%
160566
Communication
30%
160567
Same or similar values
17%
VoteTotal Votes: 26542
Live Poll
Of the following, what's least important?
Respect
Humor
Passion
Communication
Same or similar values
View Results
160573
Respect
2%
160574
Humor
22%
160575
Passion
41%
160576
Communication
3%
160577
Same or similar values
33%
VoteTotal Votes: 25717
Live Poll
Estimate the total time each day that you speak directly with your spouse:
Less than 5 minutes a day
Between 5 and 15 minutes
Between 15 and 30 minutes
More than 30 minutes a day
View Results
160578
Less than 5 minutes a day
2%
160579
Between 5 and 15 minutes
10%
160580
Between 15 and 30 minutes
22%
160581
More than 30 minutes a day
66%
VoteTotal Votes: 26199
Live Poll
How often do you and your spouse have date night?
Once or more a week
A couple times a month
Once or twice every six months
Once or twice a year
Never
View Results
160582
Once or more a week
19%
160583
A couple times a month
30%
160584
Once or twice every six months
26%
160585
Once or twice a year
12%
160586
Never
12%
VoteTotal Votes: 26148
Live Poll
How often do you find yourself irritated by your spouse?
Never
Rarely
Sometimes
Always
View Results
160587
Never
1%
160588
Rarely
27%
160589
Sometimes
65%
160590
Always
7%
VoteTotal Votes: 26273
Live Poll
Would you want your children to have a marriage like yours?
Yes
No
View Results
160591
Yes
73%
160592
No
27%
VoteTotal Votes: 26469
TODAY wants to know all about your marriage – the good, the bad and the annoying. What are the key factors to keeping your marriage strong – and when it falters, who’s to blame? Please answer these questions. Be sure to hit the "vote" button before moving on to the next question.
In the comments below, tell us what you think the secret is to a strong and successful marriage.
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Do you think taking time out from a relationship can save it?
Tue Aug 30, 2011 9:07 AM EDT
TODAY's Savannah Guthrie talks with marriage therapist M. Gary Neuman, who discusses how temporarily separating from your spouse could actually help save your marriage — if the trial separation is structured and helps both partners grow.
On TODAY Tuesday, therapist M. Gary Neuman said a trial separation can sometimes salvage a marriage that's on the rocks, because it provides time for growth and reflection. Do you think taking time out from a troubled relationship can actually save it?

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Results with 37 short comments
Total of 5,369 votes - click on the "Display Comments" bar below to sort comments

66.9%
Yes.
3,592 votes

33.1%
No.
1,777 votes

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No.
life's too short and there's too many other people out there that may be a better fit.

2 votes
#1
- SteveO-8t6
- 11:25 am EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
No.
Taking tiem away won't fix problems. God designed marriage and we have to look at His instructions on what a marrige is to be like.
2 votes
#2
- Mike-2283408
- 11:37 am EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
Yes.
It has to have clear rules and an end point. In the middle, there can't be any threats to divorce. It's not a vacation to have an affair.
3 votes
#3
- Mackle-3421389
- 11:46 am EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
No.
I was happy to reflect on myself, but my ex sure wasn't. She said it was always my fault. She still thinks that today. She needs thearpy.
3 votes
#4
- Stone Cold Ryan
- 12:08 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
No.
I was happy to reflect on myself. My ex think's she's just fine. It takes two, and if only one is willing to work at it, there is no chance
1 vote
#5
- Stone Cold Ryan
- 12:13 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
No.
No. Time away is time to play. New friendships/relationships are always better than salvaging old damaged ones.
1 vote
#6
- USlifeLine
- 12:21 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
Yes.
It did in my case. 6 months of husband living my himself and me in an apt in another town helped us see what was missing.
#7
- Robin-2931182
- 1:22 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
Yes.
Sometimes even a couple of weeks is enough to gain new perspective on ongoing disagreements. What's more important, being right or together
#8
- Marcher
- 1:43 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
Yes.
Oh my yes! My favorite quote:

By all means use some times to be alone.
Salute thyself: see what thy soul doth wear.
-- George Herbert
#9
- Barbara C-1177289
- 2:14 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
Yes.
Yes, time out gives you a chance to reflect, to be away from the constant stress, to see what life is like on your own.
#10
- Suze the Muze
- 2:21 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
No.
Generally, no. But there are exceptions to everything. Once you split once, it is either done or on-again off-again forever.
1 vote
#11
- David-1984932
- 2:32 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
Yes.
It's important spend time together on a regular basis, but also to spend time apart with friends. It gives you a chance to miss each other.
#12
- jennilee912
- 2:35 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
Yes.
But ONLY if BOTH partners are willing to use the time for introspection, and one is NOT a sociopath and compulsive liar! (Yep, been there!)
2 votes
#13
- sunpigs
- 2:36 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
Yes.
I hope so considering my wife and I are doing this right now. We are 4 months out and getting along very well.
#14
- Ajaxon
- 2:55 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
No.
not always....
#15
- Sydney-3486041
- 2:56 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
Yes.
People are like icebergs: most of who we are is below the surface. It takes a trained person to help us see that part of ourselves.
#16
- Steve in WA-2586156
- 3:13 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
No.
Tried this, it actually made things worse.
#17
- GedePrime-548136
- 3:24 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
Yes.
My older sister and her husband took a time-out and are now back together and seem to be much happier!
#18
- Brittany-3691628
- 4:43 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
No.
In the mean time one or both spouses catches an STD. Nope not into that.
#19
- DelFairchild-1968594
- 5:19 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
No.
Took him back after he had an affair. Time out did NOT save a relationship where one did not want to give up the girlfriend!!
#20
- Linda-3997112
- 6:14 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
Yes.
This obviously worked for my aunt Jeanine and Mark, So I am guessing it can work for many others.
#21
- sugarponies
- 11:11 pm EDT on Tue Aug 30, 2011
No.
A trial separation is either a license to cheat or rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. Call it a day and save yourself more pain.
#22
- ajax1126
- 12:57 am EDT on Wed Aug 31, 2011
No.
Okay, maybe one day. But if you're talking separate living arrangements for a month or more, you're looking at the begiining of the end.
#23
- Sherrie-299765
- 2:24 am EDT on Wed Aug 31, 2011
Yes.
it worked for us. Two years apart allowed for individual/couple counseling, reflection, and growth. It was a close thing though...
#24
- michaelo-3156802
- 5:21 am EDT on Wed Aug 31, 2011
Yes.
Separation gives you time to think and remember things
#25
- lyds-4000201
- 8:41 am EDT on Wed Aug 31, 2011

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Do you and your spouse sleep in separate beds?
Mon Jul 26, 2010 7:51 AM EDT
Studies show that nearly 1 in 4 married couples sleep in separate beds, for reasons ranging from medical issues to different schedules and technological interferences. In a New York Times column, Bruce Feiler writes about what this means for the state of modern marriage. Do you sleep in a different bed than your spouse? If so, why? How do you make it work? Tell us about your experience!
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Total of 75,130 votes - click on the "Display Comments" bar below to sort comments

41.4%
Yes.
31,103 votes

50.8%
No.
38,146 votes

7.8%
I am considering it.
5,881 votes

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Yes.
frst reason i get up at 330 for work.she gets up at 500.plus i snore.we have been sleeping in seperate rooms for about 2 years very happy n
11 votes
#26
- finally happy
- 8:12 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
Yes.
I finally decided that a good nights' sleep is more important that sleeping in the same bed with my husband; indeed I wake happier!!
14 votes
#27
- Dotti
- 8:25 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
Yes.
Sleep apnea and other medical issue as well as she has a very hectic work load. As for my sleep disorder it has been corrected.
8 votes
#28
- Jyoho12
- 8:28 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
Yes.
BEST way to live together BY FAR. Each have uninterrupted sleep. He watches TV when he wants. I need dark and silence. LOVE IT!
14 votes
#29
- jennieb
- 8:36 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
Yes.
We live in separate homes also
13 votes
#30
- happy2008
- 9:05 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
No.
We generally sleep in the same bed, but he's super restless and a covers-stealer, so I can see us sleeping separately in the future.
7 votes
#31
- jmk-426850
- 9:07 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
Yes.
i go to bed at 9pm and get up at 4:30. He goes to bed at midnight and gets up at 7. I want to watch my reality shows. SNORES and takes cove
#32
- HeadBee
- 9:10 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
No.
I don't think one in four represents a downfall of anything. That means 75% do sleep together.
7 votes
#33
- ram-762581
- 9:12 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
No.
I love sleeping with my wife, and I'll put up with the different schedules, temp peferences etc. to do it. Fortunatly neither of us snores
6 votes
#34
- myothercarisabus
- 9:13 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
Yes.
Sleep apnea and different sleep schedules.
7 votes
#35
- Heather Hill
- 9:14 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
No.
My husband of thirty five years hast put up with my snoring and I his. We would never consider
sleeping separately. That's why we married!
10 votes
#36
- sleepforever
- 9:15 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
No.
Call me old fashioned. I'm a 45 year old man, married to my best friend for 26 years. Sleeping next to her is my cure for insomnia!
18 votes
#37
- Chills4Me
- 9:18 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
I am considering it.
I spend many nights on the sofa because he has sleep apnea & snores but won't go to the dr about it. He tosses & turns, kicks & flops aroun
11 votes
#38
- ncmama-2066916
- 9:18 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
Yes.
I'm a very light sleeper and my wife is a very 'active" sleeper who turns over and readjusts throughout the night. I kept getting woken up.
9 votes
#39
- Biglensbob
- 9:19 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
No.
I do man the couch at times because of his snoring and wish we had another bed on those nights...but I'd never permanently change rooms.
1 vote
#40
- cschick2317
- 9:23 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
Yes.
Different work schedules - he works at night, I work days - He also snores like a freight train but it's mostly the schedules
5 votes
#41
- J D Wilson
- 9:24 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
Yes.
I'm actually in a chair beside our bed. Neck and back problems make sleeping in the bed uncomfortable, but I really miss lying next to him
1 vote
#42
- judy-1361281
- 9:24 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
Yes.
Have had separate bedrooms for 30+ years. I wasn't gettiing any sleep with the thrashing and snoring. We're very happy and rested.
10 votes
#43
- Kari-1989755
- 9:25 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
I am considering it.
different schedules and I am a light sleeper. Nothing to do with love, just sleep
3 votes
#44
- cutleyn
- 9:26 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
Yes.
We actually sleep in different rooms - with my storing and work schedule, coupled with her getting up repeatedly...it works better for us.
10 votes
#45
- Shawn [a.k.a. "Shadow"]
- 9:27 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
No.
I wouldn't know what to do if I couldn't reach over and touch my husband! This takes the intimacy out of marriage...
#46
- MissStacie
- 9:29 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
No.
She snores... I snore... so what! Neither of us would ever consider sleeping in a separate bed. Been through too much to go it alone now.
#47
- Michael-2066957
- 9:31 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
No.
I can't sleep unless I'm touching my wife! We have been married 25 years.
11 votes
#48
- theRooster
- 9:31 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
No.
My husband and I have been married for 15 years, we feel something is missing if we don't sleep in the same bed.
#49
- reblehn
- 9:32 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010
No.
Thankfully my husband doesn't snore but I can't imagine wanting to sleep in another room. 1 in 4 - really??
6 votes
#50
- Shannon-1386529
- 9:33 am EDT on Mon Jul 26, 2010

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Help! I am a lesbian married to a man
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Is having a family more important than sexual fulfillment, romantic love?
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	Yes, I seriously considered it
	Yes, I've thought about it, but not too seriously
	Never

	Money
	Inequitable distribution of household chores
	Kids
	Sex
	Relatives
	None of the above

	When my spouse agrees I'm right
	I usually let my spouse win -- it's just easier
	We agree to disagree
	They never end

	I never go to bed angry with my spouse
	I rarely go to bed angry with my spouse
	I sometimes go to bed angry with my spouse
	I often go to bed angry with my spouse

	Love him/her anyway
	Like him/her anyway
	Feel aggravated to no end
	Still hope I can change him/her
	Laugh about it

	They're related to money/purchases/debt
	Relationships with people of the opposite sex
	Things I am angry/disappointed/sad about
	What I really think about him/her
	I don't keep secrets from my spouse

	Less than 5 minutes a day
	Between 5 and 15 minutes
	Between 15 and 30 minutes
	More than 30 minutes a day

	Once or more a week
	A couple times a month
	Once or twice every six months
	Once or twice a year
	Never

	0-5
	6-10
	11-20
	20+

	Male
	Female

	Yes
	No

	Your spouse/marriage
	Your children
	Yourself
	Your career

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